I'm down with this mysterious illness. I think it's called "Bofwen-Withdrawal-Syndrome". hee hee hee. 14 days were spent with the bofwen and suddenly, it felt weird to be alone. Again. No more cooking for two. No more "I cook, you do the dishes. " No more coming back at 10pm (my place is too dodgy to jalan2 sorang2 at night). No more groceries partner. Having nobody to nag, nobody to quarel with or even nobody to talk to in the room.
Sometimes i wished i have a normal relationship. And do like what any other nomal couples do. Go out for dinner or cook together. Go out on a date or watch movie or anything to do together. A bar of chocolate or a bouquet of flowers or even a card with lovely wordings to cheer me up when i feel down. Or actually, what's more important is to have somebody by my side during my lowest point of my life.
Long-distance relationship is haaaard. Keeping a long distance-relationship alive is not an easy task! The outsiders think that as long as you're loyal to your partner, everything will be alright."Distance does not matter if two heart are loyal to one another." eeettttt! Wrong!!! Sometimes you need more that "dead messages" through msn. Sometimes u want more than the "imaginary hug" from the bear icon. Sometimes u feel like sharing some stories or exciting, hot news with your partner but you know you have to wait until tonight for you to be able to tell the stories....then when the night comes, u just lost the spark, the excitement nak bercerita anymore! When you start not to communicate well with each other, it's as if the two of you are living in 2 seperate worlds.
Haiiiihhhhhhh! I wonder when will this distant-thingy ends :( Coz im totally sick of it! Any advice from the perfect, loving long-distance pair out there that i can keep? ;)
"Missing someone gets easier everyday because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will."
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ashie bee.. i agree wif u.. it is hard to have long distance relationship.. that's why i admire u, bcoz u can still make it turn out to be possible.. but, if giler susah, n making u miserable, try this option:
1) kawin n move to dublin ;)
2) kawin n ask him to move to london ;)
3) or kawin n both balik msia
see.. still i think long distance relationship is a better choice, where u can ask him to come during holidays.. and then bile dah x tahan nak layan utk masak for him, u can ask him to balik dublin.. hahaha.. go girl!!
hey anonymous :)
hahaha funny lah your ideas!tp i tnk kawin lagiiiii!!!!!still too early! no fulus nak buat kenduri kawin pun :P but anyway, probably it's best to be in this position today. a test to see how strong the love is. I believe if ade jodoh, adelah tuuu. kan kan kan? if takde, nak buat camane dong :( huhuuuu
Hi ashieBee,
I understand what you are going through. I truly do. My advice is, write long emails to him everyday. Through your email, tell him everything that you want to tell to him as if he was right there beside you. Tell him the things you can't tell via the blog or MSN. Include in your email every single emotion you feel for him that day, that week, or that month.
And for his part, ask him to return the email in the same manner. Trust me. Its not the same as talking to him personally or MSN. And its great when you have arguments. He has to read what you think without him interrupting you. Its more rewarding. And it has the ability to keep the relationship connected.
If it doesn't, then im sorry. My mistake. But i'm doing it. And im still happy.
Good luck!
hey anonymous 2 :)
thanks for ur advice! but unfortunately, bofwen i jenis yang tak suke menulis. he prefers to call me rather than writing! i've tried that...but he tk reply or write too short.in the end, i pulak yang geram wif him!grrrr :P hehehehe. lucky you, your bf suke menulis!
but anyway, thanks for dropping by and give a thought on wut i've wrote!
*hugs*
rashiiiiidah!!
hah. hi.. hepi new year.
i dah lama tak call you on your bday kan. hahaha.
-diana. INGAT TAK I..!!
hi ash! (errr...can i call u that? blh la kan? zul calls u that too right?)
anyways, felt like leaving a comment coz i'm in the same boat too...the whole ldr thingamajingy.
first of all, the whole email idea by anonymous? yeah, it doesnt work if the other party doesnt like to write (huhu...i feel ur pain...n ur geramness of doing something that seems 'bertepuk sebelah tangan').
secondly, always always always remember that there are others who are in a much much more difficult situation. at least u get to see ur bf during hols, no? some people only get to see theirs like, for two days in a year!!! no kidding. and that too involves a lotta stuff like making sure holidays clash, being in the same country at the same time, money, money, and more money...u get the picture right? heehee...and besides, do u honestly think that seeing ur bf 365 days in a year is a good thing? it gets a lil bit boring, no?
lastly, u will ALWAYS have ur girlfriends by ur side, and they'll b there to listen to ur crap, to listen to u beat around the bush about something that's bothering u, to do fun stuff with u, and to just simply hang out and have coffee. it's not the same, but girlfriends are for life. (seems like i'm putting a lotta emphasis on the girls, but yeah, i made a mistake by pushing them aside and leaving them outta my life. but now that they're back in, i'm a much much happier person, and a lot more confident).
but yeah, having said that, MSN sangat boring kan? i feel ur pain. just try to b strong.
huhu...i'm merepeking already. better stop =P
hey shak,
first, YES! you can call me ash! as the matter or fact, most ppl call me ash nowadays! but taj calls me rashidah.hehehe...but then, wutever you're comfortable wif lah...as long as it's not "rash" or "shid"! hehehe :P
I think you have a gud point there! seeing your bf 365 days can be tiring oso! and sooner or later, you'll run out of ideas...apelah nak buat harini? dah tk thrill lah bile kluar dating lg....hehehe!
and i have to agree that im quite lucky NOW! things are "not that bad" at this moment...but i dunno wut will happen next yr :( he's going back to msia for gud already (twinning prog!). so yeah, take one step at a time huh? i'll worry about that later...hee hee hee!
lastly, i pun sayaaaaang my girls jugaks! glad that they are here in London wif me <3 but serious shit, next yr gonna be a tough yr coz they are all going back!!!! huhuhu :'(
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