February 29, 2008

An uphill climb!

Being a hopeless romantic, i think long-distance relationship shucks!


Believe it or not, ever since bofwen returned to Malaysia last wednesday, we haven't really got the chance to properly catch up with each other. yeah, we skyped once because he was watching football match and hung up sbb nak tgk the extra time or what shit. then he never ring me back. :(( i'm abandoned and forgotten just within a week. **swoosh** went out of his brain, into the drain. Basically yeah, I'll be in the dental institute roughly from 9am-5pm. By the time i reached home, he's already snoring and mamai and doesn't want to talk to me. i tried to be an understanding gf lah; it's 1am afterall. can't blame him! tried my luck again before i go to bed but nope, he didn't answer the phone. belum bangun lagi. heh. tido lama giler, kalah baby pleaseee? when I called him before i start my dental routine, he'll be busy driving his mom la, hanging out with his dad la, his siblings were around so he can't talk lah.

...so who's to blame for the shittos i'm going through now?!!!
(a) different time zone (b) bofwen yang kurang effort and suke tido and senantiasa sibuk dgn 11 adik-beradiknya (c) busy, hectic lifestyle of a jr-dentist (d) kesemua reasons di atas?

aiyoyo~! fening kepala gue pikir! no wonder people said that long distance relationship can mean growing together or growing apart. and most couples will eventually break up. that's why they claimed that long distance relationships are a bad idea and don't work. but then, it can work...if you put more time and effort into making it work, no?

ps- thanks cinta sbb kasi pinjam lu punya telinga :)) my pelampung that keeps me floating when i'm about to drown. my antidote for any type of poisons *sigh*

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

alaa..bagi chance la die nak adjust2 to new life..lama tak jumpe family semue..chill la..LDR not that bad la..at one point u will find a balance,n sure can work it out one..

ask shak for details on how to maintain LDR..hehehe..

Husna said...

sabar laaaaaa kak. he needs some time kott.. try ur bestest utk jadi gf yg paaaaaaaaaling understanding kat seluruh alam maya niiii. is not that ur gonna lose anything pun if u abar lebih sikit, in fact i yakiiiin muj muj akan sayaaaang u bertambah2 lagiii when tibe2 dier terbukak mata sikit la kot. maybe skng tgh syiok2 lagi rindu kampung halaman kan. i knowwww ldr suckkkss, but absence makes the heart grows stronger i guesss kan kan.jgn risau sgt nanti u cepat ade wrinkles. chilll okkkkk! i adaaaa i sayang uuu ok..

-MujedN- said...

thanx zul and husna for helping and giving us spirit to maintain our LDR..ni dah kali berape la LDR..hope this time will be more improvement and strong love from both sides...

bee give me chance la spend time with my family coz almost two years i tak balik and maybe dah start kelas nanti lagi susah nak spend time..sibuk class and hospital..anyway i know my responsibility not to 'abandon' u..budak manje *wink*

take care sayang

p/s: mane u dapat gambar i tido..dah pandai jadi stalker yer!!

Anonymous said...

hi ash,

zul told me bout this post, so i thot i'd chck it out...

all i can say is that, i am in the same boat as well... like, really... zul pun tak layan i once he's back at home (except some txts at nite... - nanti tak mention karang dia tak puas hati pulak :P)... cannot talk coz family is around la, layan family la, demam la, too sleepy from eating nasi lemak la, this la, that la... mcm2 la... but then again, i cant be selfish la kan, coz he doesnt see his family often pun (even tho he sees me even less than he sees his family). owh, and and the watching football thingy... takleh nak buat apa la kan? i clearly remember watching footie while skyping pastu kena sound by someone... LOL.

i know trying to be understanding is hard. it's even harder when ur bf kuat tido (hahahah...so random... sorry mujed, sorry zul) but i guess that is one of the sacrifices that u have to make. but then... i really think effort is important in LDR. once one side stops putting in effort, the other side pun pasrah and stops being in love (been there, done that).

as for ur case, i think u're both still trying to adjust to the situation. by the time mujed starts uni i think should b ok kut, coz u both already know how ur schedule is gonna be like so u can work things out, when to skype and so on. kadang2... get to skype for 10 mins je while eating breakfast before heading off to the hosp, but something is better than nothing, no? just give him some time to adjust...

having said that, i know how worrying it is and how much it sucks when u feel like the effort is not there and stuff. but it's only been a couple of weeks, so just give it more time...

actually... i dont believe in LDR. ada someone tu yg convinced me that it can work out. i guess at this point, i am trying to prove other ppl and most importantly MYSELF wrong.

i am not here to tell u to be strong, and i am not here to tell you that everything will b ok.. coz i know saying all those wont help.. and frm ur post, u actually sound exactly like me when it comes to this...

but ash, it's gonna b hard, coz nobody said it was easy... but then mujed and you had all those time to build a strong foundation, and surely he'll make it worth the wait kan? i'm sure mujed misses u a lot, a lot, a lot, as much as u miss him.

besides... kalau dah lama tak jumpa, when u finally get to see each other the feeling is magical. lagi best ;)

p/s: sorry for the long comment... and hey, if u need someone to talk to who understands the situation 156.19837%, i am around :)

Sherzamm said...

ashiebie hang in there k?

insyaAllah it'll get better. That's all I can say. Org lain punya advice mcm lagi kukuh dan utuh...hehe..But effort itu adalah penting laa

jgn stress sgt k? kita pergi mkn curry laksa ke, lontong ke...

I know that doesnt help but keeping yourself happy and surrounded by cool friends *ehem ehem* will help.

ashieBee said...

::.::zul::..::
kenapa kene "ASH" yg belajar dr shak? kenapa tk "MUJID" yang belajar? adapt dgn masa? have u heard that being busy is just an excuse? if u really think of that one person, no matter how busy you are, AT LEAST ade sms. oh lupe, mujid ckp 50sen sms too expensive lah! oppps~

::.::uchnana::.::
sabar itu sebahagian drpd iman. yerp, tgh cube bersabar! hahahaha. and no, i tk nak jadi gf paling baik. too tiring! im getting old now. so layzee already. why cant the bf try to be the best bofwen instead? :((

::.::mujed::.::
i wished i had an uglier version of that pic where you drool or tido mulut menganga that would make you malu!!! *sigh* i marah, still marah. urmm im just wondering, so when you're busy wif clinic and hospital, where do i come in? oh takpelah, i dah biasa macam ni. dipinggirkan? nothing new about it.

::.::shak::.::
awwwwww...you're such a sweetheart! you know wut, i find it amazing how a person that i've never met before can be sooo warm. hehehe.thanks again babe!and yess, mmg giler panjang punye comment that i think u can write a column just about handling a LDR :))

::.::sherliza::.::
ahahahahahaha! yessssss lontong ey? *hint*hint*orang sane tanak masakkan utk i ke? eh biii, bukan u kate haritu nak masak nasi ayam ke? ape cers niiii? :P ahahahahahaha!

diana said...

Kidsie, it gets better. I nocturnal, senang la cakap kan haha. But it does get better. Oh and it will always suck sometimes, in a way. But you get used to it nanti. Walaupun perasaan anda adalah valid tetapi haa.. I sebenanya nak be comforting but alaa you faham la kot I rasa :o) Hey you grad bila ni? Kata nak masakkan yummy things and go food-hunting. Hee.

h.3.l.3.n said...

i agree wit zul that LDR needs adjusting.. after a few weeks u wud kno wad time of the day is the best time to call and stick to it or sth.. 1st week stil new and msia food+ family all excited etc..

ash/shak, consider urself lucky as long as the guy is always committed to u in the end.. bttr than two-timing..

ashieBee said...

::.::diana::.::
**sigh** thanks for the kata2 semangat. tp i still kurang semangat. how ni, nana???? :(( owh i tk beli tic balik summer lagi. i nak balik nak balik pleaseeeeee?

::.::helen::.::
ahahahaha consider myself lucky tk dpt lelaki two timing ey? hmmm maybe u are right kot. heheheheh. urmm nnti i balik msia summer ni, i pon nak sibuk dgn family and makanannn je! padan muka mujid :P ahahahahah *revenge*revenge*