My principles were put on trial last week. My patience reached the edge of the cliff. I've found the causes of the problem but failed to come out with solutions. The overworked brain is drained now. Imagine me as a balloon which you kept on pumping air in it. It over stretched. The air molecules are over crowded. Urgently need to release some of it. Bitching session is all what I need! Ok, scratch that. Change to counseling session. Sounds better?
Bising-ed at M until he cannot tahan anymore. Consulted T; the one that kept me sane. Chatted with Y; the big sis that acts as my back bone. And oh boy, D pun agreed with our opinion. Emailed I about it too but tak dilayan. Cis. Blabbing, yakking about the same thing during dinner and poor F has to tolerate with me. Thanks :))
The outcome?
Everybody wants to love and to be loved. The fact that love starts from there, and you don't know where it's gonna go. Wait long enough- love will find you, in some of the strangest place. Everything is a surprise. There is no fast lane in falling in love. Before you're able to see,feel or touch love, you need to love yourself first; if not, nobody would. When you loved yourself enough, you will no longer need things or people to make you feel safe. You will soon realize that you are never alone. When you loved yourself, you will learned to say NO when you want to. You will learn to respect your space and needs. You will quit settling for too little. When you loved yourself enough, you'll see that you are not special but a very unique person indeed. You'll feel content with yourself and are able to shine just by being yourself. Loving, knowing that you are going to get hurt is like living knowing that you are going to die. But, not loving so you don't get hurt, is like committing a suicide. I guess to be in a bad relationship is better than not being in love at all. But we ain't beggars of love. We don't just stay still and let ourselves being hurt, abused by others. We need to guard our pride.If a guy wants you badly, he'll work his ass off to get you. He'll climb the mountain, cross the sea, pick the stars for you. Our love is not meant utk diperlekehkan, dipermainkan, diperkecilkan. That's why we don't give our heart to just anyone. Especially not to the one that make us one of his options when we make him our top priority. No guys are worth our priceless tears. Haven't you heard of the easier thing comes, the easier it goes away? I see a long road ahead of you, but trust me my friend, you day will come. Yes, it will. Like they said, "Love finds love, love seeks love, and love sees you. Not the other way around."
Bising-ed at M until he cannot tahan anymore. Consulted T; the one that kept me sane. Chatted with Y; the big sis that acts as my back bone. And oh boy, D pun agreed with our opinion. Emailed I about it too but tak dilayan. Cis. Blabbing, yakking about the same thing during dinner and poor F has to tolerate with me. Thanks :))
The outcome?
Everybody wants to love and to be loved. The fact that love starts from there, and you don't know where it's gonna go. Wait long enough- love will find you, in some of the strangest place. Everything is a surprise. There is no fast lane in falling in love. Before you're able to see,feel or touch love, you need to love yourself first; if not, nobody would. When you loved yourself enough, you will no longer need things or people to make you feel safe. You will soon realize that you are never alone. When you loved yourself, you will learned to say NO when you want to. You will learn to respect your space and needs. You will quit settling for too little. When you loved yourself enough, you'll see that you are not special but a very unique person indeed. You'll feel content with yourself and are able to shine just by being yourself. Loving, knowing that you are going to get hurt is like living knowing that you are going to die. But, not loving so you don't get hurt, is like committing a suicide. I guess to be in a bad relationship is better than not being in love at all. But we ain't beggars of love. We don't just stay still and let ourselves being hurt, abused by others. We need to guard our pride.If a guy wants you badly, he'll work his ass off to get you. He'll climb the mountain, cross the sea, pick the stars for you. Our love is not meant utk diperlekehkan, dipermainkan, diperkecilkan. That's why we don't give our heart to just anyone. Especially not to the one that make us one of his options when we make him our top priority. No guys are worth our priceless tears. Haven't you heard of the easier thing comes, the easier it goes away? I see a long road ahead of you, but trust me my friend, you day will come. Yes, it will. Like they said, "Love finds love, love seeks love, and love sees you. Not the other way around."
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awatla marah sgt ni cik kak oii..not good for the health......
huahuahua..
but whatever u wrote is indeed very very trueeee..
i knowwwwwwwwww! stressss smpi keluar pimples semua tauuu :P hehehehehe. but then hus, it's frustrating watching your love ones make a fool out of herself. it hurts to watch someone you care getting hurt. you know, love is handicapped; buta pekak bisu! when you're in love, you don't see all the *bluek*part when the observers do. probably i should have just listen to mujid. try to be ignorance! we are all an adult now and we should bear the consequences of our decision. nobody can provide a safe playground for you anymore.
betul tak ibu usrah ku?
Undeniably, it is important to love ourselves fst but if we`re soo in love with ourselves, perhaps, one day, we might just get carried away...we tend to forget that there`s other people around us that need to be considered. We become ignorant of other people`s feelings, we refuse to put ourselves in other people`s shoes, we refuse to give in, we refuse to listen, we refuse to understand, we refuse to comprehend, we refuse to tolerate for we love ourselves wayyy too much more than we love others :P. Love can make you or break you, can bring a smile to your face or even tears bergolek2 membasahi pipi, might bring joy, might cause a pain. My definition of love might be different from his, hers or yours kan ^_^. After all, love is indeed one of the most valuable gifts from Allah kan ^_^ , a very strong feeling that no precise words could describe, but only can be felt here * tangan di hatiku *:P
awwwwwwwww ibu sudah memberi kata2 hikmahnye :))
memanglah kenot love ourselves wayyyy to much!!! itu self centered sgt deiiii! hehehehe. but ibuuu, if it's only us yang keep on giving but the other person keep on taking je, isn't that means that we don't love ourselves enuff and we don't put ourselves as the priority??? ade certain things yg u can give in but in this case ibu, its just wayyy to much! we sebagai perempuan patut jaga maruah, not to let the guys see us as perempuan murahan. i kenot tahan perempuan spt ini. u know how much i bebel pasal mawi ina laaaa, itu lah, ini lahh... perempuan2 spt ini memalukan deiii!!!! kiter kene tough sket laaa, takkee? hehehehehee
Don`t get me wrong, I love myself, I value myself, I appreciate myself, I respect myself but at the same time I keep on reminding myself that the world is not just about me me and me :P; ie if I want to be treated good by others, I must first treat others well, put myself in their shoes, try to understand them before jump into conclusions. Yes, sometimes, I do feel being nice can be a problem, being taken granted for, but hey, I don`t want to change my principle just because seorang dua yang tidak tahu menghargai I :P. You`ll be surprise to know what people can do to you even your boyfriend ke, family ke, friends ke. Thus, it`s important to know our strengths and weaknesses so that we could bounce back from a temporary disappointment, move on with grace, learn from our mistkes and become a better person. It`s the guys loss la if he can`t see the girl inside out and appreciate her sacrifices for him. We all know guys can err lambat sket nampak benda2 macam ni..bila hilang baru sedar oooo betapa mulianya besarnya erti the girl to him...by the time too late kuts kannnn *sheesh*. I`ve learned the importance to be able to say No on certain things and know when to walk away and make some space for self improvement...we`re doing ourselves a big favour by doing so. We`ll respect and value ourselves more, beralah sekali dua tak bererti lemah ^_~, we wont lose anything dengan berbuat baik, Allah will reward us insyallah. What goes around comes around babe :P.
tulah ibu, i wished that person can see her mistakes...coz she's been repeating the same one over and over again and again. smpikan the whole frens tk tahan tgk. i guess which frens yang sanggup tgk their close fren being hurt again and again kan? kiter yang tgk sgt lah rase skt, i guess apatah lagi org yang merasa...
If i ade super power, i would like to gain the ability to read ppl's mind. coz i badly want to read her mind :(( *sigh*
im trying to ignore. im trying to let go. the frens cant provide safe playground forever, no?
thanks ibu for ur opinion!!!!! :))
emm..
lets say, ive been in her shoes.
u know loving someone so badly, miserably and horribly. u tend to be stubborn, for reasons like u just know it; u want to follow what ur heart says as if only you would ever understand kind of thing.senang kire ur blinded by love that u dun know where its gonna bring you to.it happens.i know how it feels.
i guess, some things some ppl just need to learn them over over over over and OVER again. serious.
tak guna u nak sakit hati and all that. just let her be but be there for her.
she will come around one day. you cant make her change her mind or decide on sthing she dun want to do. she mite need time, just give her as much time tht she needs. one day she will realize that its not worth it, she will unearth her stupidness all those while. but the thing is she needs to do all that on her own time and pace.
you just need to b there for her and be patient. hang jgn meroyan na. lain org lain kepala hotak. so bia aje.
huahua.
well said, ash, well said.
yerp husna, at this moment i have to agree that ignorance is a bliss :)) i'll just pretend like im some kind of heavy-duty cloth or sponge that will absorb everything and say nothing about it! plus she decided to go that way. so let her be. we'll just watch and see how far she can go.if smpi destination, alhamdulillah. if tk, then we'll support and be her loyal cheerleader till she can stand and start running back on the track! OK?
well said ey? but not everybody has the same principle. so cannot apply to everyone osooo... this case; her case, is a special one :)) so everything i've written here doesnt apply in HER case *sigh*
I hope it is just a general thought of you Miss Ashiee.. Sbb I cannot concur with it if you are refering to love between opposite gender... Most of people terlalu menghambakan dan mendambakan cinta dunia, sampai lupa cinta akhirat..
Anyways, each and everyone has their own definition of love and life kan? But as for me, at the moment, takde ape yang dapat lawan my love to my family... They are the people yang akan sentiasa di belakang i, no matter what.. And I am truly bersyukur for that. Alhamdulillah. (Cinta pada Allah tu pasti la kan)
hehehe. :)
hey ash! u go girl hahaha.
tho i xtau apakah yg terjadi, tp in some (let me stress *some*) girls are just simply addicted to feeling sad. they depend their whole existence on the bast@rd and will hold on to him like he's the most important thing in the world. and its annoying sbb u know org2 mcm ni slalu sungguh tak patut be there and usually deserve better. marah bukan?
she will keep on defending him. and terus cling on to him in the name of "love" which i so highly rs tipu gila sbb thats just dependence. they are two very different things!
:D
no love is permanent except the love for Allah; that's for sure cik nono! :)) and yeah, some people do carried away when they are chasing for their love. but...nothing we can do, no? setakat nasihat from time to time la kot. but all of us are adults now. we make decision on our own. well literally we listen to wut others have to say, whats their opinions on the topic but in the end, it's you the empunya badan that will decide. takkee? and gud for u that u sees ur family as the most important part of ur life. untung mak bapak u dpt anak yg penyayang mcm u ;) keep it up!
addicted to feeling sad?? huh?? wujud kee org macam tu? but yessss, agak annoying wujudnye org macam tu especially if it's one of ur closest friends. rase mcm nak cekik2 je, and ketuk2 je kepala diorang :P ahahahahahaha! *doink* but nothing can be done right for these people? they accept it that way, who are you to interfere? no?
*hugs*
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