.....sad? .....lonely? .....rich? ......free? ....ready to mingle?
Recently, my bestie broke up. And it was a big blow to her! Looking back at all her sacrifices and willingness to tolerate with that jerk who cheated on her twice.....to be honest, i think that was stooopid!!!! See, i've told ya that we should NEVER EVER give a second chance to a cheater. Once a cheater, forever a liar! *blergh*
After 3 years being "stucked" in the relationship, she's finally out of the kepompong. And suddenly, she felt insecure. Exposed. Fragile. Useless. Lost. She's worried that at this age, she might not find anybody else to be her other-half. Her mind starts to think weird stuff like growing old alone in the rumah orang tua. She thinks that life meant nothing anymore coz for all these while, she has planned everything with him. Now, none of those plans are valid anymore as he is no longer there. He left. Now it's only her.
I know that i may not be the best candidate to stand behind a "single-status" friend... but i really think there's nothing wrong with being single. Yeah, agak jealous la tgk orang kiri kanan ade bf. Yelah, agak dengki la tengok orang sebelah dapat bunga or any other suprises. Yelah, agak buhsan lah asyik2 orang sebelah je dpt sms or email from their special ones. And yeah, it's a bit sad lah when u are stuck at home on fri nite or weekend...watching tv with your cat when others are having a great outing with their loved ones.
But-
I think being single is the time for you to learn to love yourself more than anybody else. When you are in a relationship, you compromise between each other. And sometimes, u simply forgot what's best for you. You put him as your top priority, and you're no 2 on the list. Have you ever wonder that probably he is the one who's bringing you down? And probably you're way better off without him. It's true that by being single, u will not have anybody "permanently" to listen to your daily rambling thoughts. But trust me, your TRUE friends are willing to occupy his place.
Plus, it's good to mend the broken heart before you give it away to the next guy. Is it because of our culture where women should get married no later than 30 years old or they'll be known as anak dara tua that makes people rush into finding the replacement? Imagine yourself as a footballer. You injured yourself in a game thus you have to stop playing. You sit at the bench watching others while you heal. And when you are ready, you start main balik lah. But imagine if u degil, nak jugak main eventho u havent recover 100%. Yeah, u get to kick the ball for let say 5-10 mins...but how long can u last? The ankle is still aching. It hurts like hell! So....would you rather be in the "attached and trapped" position than "single and sad" position? Which is worse?
Recently, my bestie broke up. And it was a big blow to her! Looking back at all her sacrifices and willingness to tolerate with that jerk who cheated on her twice.....to be honest, i think that was stooopid!!!! See, i've told ya that we should NEVER EVER give a second chance to a cheater. Once a cheater, forever a liar! *blergh*
After 3 years being "stucked" in the relationship, she's finally out of the kepompong. And suddenly, she felt insecure. Exposed. Fragile. Useless. Lost. She's worried that at this age, she might not find anybody else to be her other-half. Her mind starts to think weird stuff like growing old alone in the rumah orang tua. She thinks that life meant nothing anymore coz for all these while, she has planned everything with him. Now, none of those plans are valid anymore as he is no longer there. He left. Now it's only her.
I know that i may not be the best candidate to stand behind a "single-status" friend... but i really think there's nothing wrong with being single. Yeah, agak jealous la tgk orang kiri kanan ade bf. Yelah, agak dengki la tengok orang sebelah dapat bunga or any other suprises. Yelah, agak buhsan lah asyik2 orang sebelah je dpt sms or email from their special ones. And yeah, it's a bit sad lah when u are stuck at home on fri nite or weekend...watching tv with your cat when others are having a great outing with their loved ones.
But-
I think being single is the time for you to learn to love yourself more than anybody else. When you are in a relationship, you compromise between each other. And sometimes, u simply forgot what's best for you. You put him as your top priority, and you're no 2 on the list. Have you ever wonder that probably he is the one who's bringing you down? And probably you're way better off without him. It's true that by being single, u will not have anybody "permanently" to listen to your daily rambling thoughts. But trust me, your TRUE friends are willing to occupy his place.
Plus, it's good to mend the broken heart before you give it away to the next guy. Is it because of our culture where women should get married no later than 30 years old or they'll be known as anak dara tua that makes people rush into finding the replacement? Imagine yourself as a footballer. You injured yourself in a game thus you have to stop playing. You sit at the bench watching others while you heal. And when you are ready, you start main balik lah. But imagine if u degil, nak jugak main eventho u havent recover 100%. Yeah, u get to kick the ball for let say 5-10 mins...but how long can u last? The ankle is still aching. It hurts like hell! So....would you rather be in the "attached and trapped" position than "single and sad" position? Which is worse?
10 comments:
ash, u used football analogy :P
anyhooos, about being single, it's not so bad...esp when u haf ur true frens to help u heal. but the healing process is better when u haf frens who are either single or if they went thru the same stuff before. i was lucky in that sense.
ur fren will learn to stand on her own...slowly but surely :)
hey shak :)
...hopefully she'll recover soon! coz i hate to see her sad! eventho i've never been in that position before, but im trying to be there for her whenever she wants me to listen. we ym and skype everyday ok. i guess ever since the breakup, we get closer and closer. hehehe. ade rahmat jugak ek? ;)
thanks shak!
i am single and why i like being single - jimat duit (no phone calls to make..heh) - can do whatever i want whenever i want it...no strings attached!
but as u put it kadang2 tgk org sekeliling jeles lah jugak...but i think i'm just lucky yg my girlfriends eventhough attached to somebody are still there for me...:)
I think being single is the time for you to learn to love yourself more than anybody else.
Agree.. Agree. You need to learn to love yourself before you commit yourself to love your guy, i guess. And to me this is the early stage due to break-up.. time tells it all so sooner or later she gonna be alrite. InshaAllah.. No worries! Hakuna Matata.. It is not the end of the world. =)
All the best kawan ashie. Heee
Addition...
Tapi kan cik Ashie, sometimes org2 yang baru terkena break-up nih agak merimaskan la. They seem to be overly dependent y'know! Seriously. But it depends on people jugak la. You may tolong your friend to reconcile herself but please... in the moderate way. It is time to be more stronger in the inner side. :P Hehe
awwwwww ijah...ur attached gfs still spend some time wif u kan? *winkwink* datin, cptlah blk london!!!!!
thanks nono!!!! yeah sometimes org yg baru breakup can be a lil bit over-dependent but....no matter wut, they are ur friend! u kene support diorang no matter wat.... hehehehe! but ada limit la kan...if smpi bertahun2 tk heal jugak, susahlah tu weiiii! ;)
sabaq naaa....sebulan lagi cek balik...u want anything from here?
footie analogy...not bad at all..hehehe..
yup yup, there's nothing wrong wif being single. n ur fren is very lucky to have someone like u to help her go thru the healing process bla bla bla..but that guy memang hampeh la..sanggup hurt the girl's feelings twice..ciss..i mean,wat's the point of getting back if u ended up cheating her again?stoooopid..if u r not ready,dont commit yet la,tak gitu?
*cough**cough*
ijahhhh!!! i nak either double cheeseburger mcd or double swiss mushroom burger king. thanks! ahahahaha ;) ehh baik i suruh zul bawa
zul yang semakin gemuk.......
baca msg di atas! kalau u baik, tolong la bwkan utk i~ u kan blk this week!!! owh pls make it for two! muj is here wif me. and i dont want to share :P ahahahahahha!
shak nak ubat batuk???? teeheee :P
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