I need a hug. Badly want it! Like now? *__*
Had a small misunderstanding with my cintas. Well i was just giving out my opinion! *And i still think it's inappropriate to tell another guy that you like him when you already have a bf!* But anyhow, different solutions work differently for different situations. *banyaknye perkataan different i pakai!heh.*The journey of life is not like solving mathematical problems where you have all the formulas to follow! Ikut cara ni, you mesti dapat jawapan ni! *Not gonna give any example as i cant recall any! doink doink. Maths dh berkarat!!!* Unfortunately life is not that simple!
Memanglah mak-mak slaloo cakap, "Kene belajar rajin-rajin, bole masuk universiti. Baru boleh berjaya." Tapi sape cakap orang tk masuk universiti tak bole berjaya??!!! There are other ways to be successful in life not via university. Probably abit tougher as you have to start from the bottom to reach the top. But insyallah, if there's a will then there's a way!
Memanglah dentist slaloo cakap, "Kene berus gigi setiap hari!Baru gigi cantik!" Tapi ade je orang yang gosok 3 kali seminggu and still bergigi walaupun dah berusia!
Memanglah orang slaloo cakap,"Eh kene kurus! Nanti laki lari!" Tapi ade je orang gemuk yang still berbahagia di samping orang tersayang. And orang yang kurus, cantik, cun melecun tu jugak ler yang dok bercerai-berai.
Memanglah orang slaloo cakap, "Long-distance relationship ni susah! Jauh di mata, makin jauhlah di hati." But if you want it to last, you will push your ass off to make it work, no?
Meeting someone else after you've already stucked in a relationship happens all the time! And yeah, you might meet somebody better than the current bf. But takkan setiap kali jumpe somebody better u nak dump the bf? It's not about not letting your options open....but ask yourself, what's the value of the relationship to you? Sampaikan you dont mind to let it go because you've met somebody new! It's not an obligation to stay loyal to your bf/gf but it's a commitment! If you cant commit to the relationship, then why couple dgn org tuh in the first place? And...if you really think you can commit no more, then let go! No use of having two boys at one time!
Itu je i rase! I dont think it's your fault if you meet somebody else when you already have a gf/bf! People change from time to time! And better change now (before kawin) or else, you'll end up regret sampai ke tua! BUT- never ever main kayu tiga! i.e. Holding on to the old one, dah confirm dpt the new one barulah release the old one! Itu kejam dong!!!
Salah ke ape i fikir??? hmmm.......opinion anyone?
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ashh.. nak bearrrr besar macam tuuuuuuuuuu !! okay anyway i rs the same thing, i think its not appropriate, its not like salah besar to suka another guy, i salu je suke, i mean like suke mcm cute or hot ke lah, kalau laki tu lagiiiii like gempak dr bf sendiri mcm takkan dpt je kut, but nak gi mengejar laki lain tu agak bongok la kan, cube klu ur bf buat cantu, how wld u feel, tak ke? make up ur mind, klu nk g org lain tinggalkanla ur bf..tak ke..eii pelik la org mcm tu..well, depends on ppl la, some couple mybe for the sake of havin a bf, some mmg commited, some testing power..haiiihh haihhh..pjg nyeeee i rinduuu u..jht la u, i dah la tak pnah rs wutever u bake tau...i nakkkk..post utk i kayyy
seriously salah nak confess to another guy when u r actually still in a relationship....tak salah suka but don't confess...sheesshh...
and kalau macam baru breakup terus tergedik2 nak laki/perempuan lain tuh mmg mengada jugak...sbb u mcm x value your prev relationship...alih2 jer dah tukar orang...mcm bercinta utk suka2
ash! hehe.. today i decided to click on the link to ur page (killing time actually, byk keje but malas nak buat) and then i read this post. towards the end i already felt like crying... pastu i baca ur friends' comments... lagi i nak nangis. huhu...
anyways, have u watched the movie 'the last kiss'? well, there's this scene in the movie where the father of the girl (yg menjadi mangsa in the situation) talked to her partner (yg made a mistake to the girl) and he said something like, "girls like that will always be around. but it's your choice whether u make something out of it". i think it applies to both guys n girls. it's unfair to just blame one sex kan? coz both same je. it's a person's choice whether to stay loyal, or to build something out of nothing with the new people in thier lives, but they must always remember that there are consequences to the choice they make, coz someone could get hurt. and making someone ur 'safety net' is just wrong. 'nuff said... nanti terlebih2 type i will become emo. hee... =)
hi korang!!!! :)
well the 3 of u commented from the point of view of "the partner"! i mean, in this case, the person yang will get hurt lor.and obviously it's not fair la kan...to be treated like that!
but have you guys ever wonder how does the other person feels about it? you like somebody else but can do nothing about it coz you are attached to somebody else. then all the "what if...blablabla" ques pops out!hehee....it must be tough to be on the other side jugak, tk ke? coz i believe it takes alot of courage to ask for a breakup from your partner! Jarang org minta breakup sbb br terfikir..actually they've thought about it for quite some time!*thats wut greg said in his book..."it's a breakup because it's broken"!
i bersimpati to both sides! But i guess, if i were in that position, probably i'll take a time off from the current relationship and think kot! i mean, afterall not all relationship will end up into marriage! sometime u gotta be cruel to be kind...huhu ;)plus, u can lie about almost anything but not your feelings!
kan kan kan? hehehe...itu i rase jeeeee!!!!!
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uchanana- besar kan bear tuhhh??? tk sampai tgn i nk peluk!!!!!and i rindu u jugaks sihhhh!!!!
ijah- org ckp, 22 thn tu muda lagi! bersuka-ria la dulu :P plus, if tk cube ramai2, mane nk tahu mane yg sesuai? hahahahah...org ckp, i quote blk ok!
shak- hi babeeee!!!how ruuu getting on????? :) jgn sedey2. jgn emo2! kehidupan harus diteruskan!!!! Plus, it's not an end! instead it's a beginning!!!!...you're a superfox!!! go girl!!! :D
*big hug for everybody*
huhu... last nite emo, now no more :p. if u're talkin about the pemangsa (cant find a better word), i've actually had a few frens in the situation actually. agak kesian lor... especially when they come bursting into ur room and crying, not knowing what to do.
my advice to them was just, "do whatever u think is right, but be aware of the consequences". ada yang sampai buat that solat where u ask God for petunjuk (cant think of the name... istikharah is it? dunno...cant remember), went with the 'new' person, n voila...like what JT sang, "what goes around goes around, goes around, comes all the way back around". eeek...ugly picture.
but u're right la... one cannot lie about one's feelings. but i'll always stick to my mummy's words, "let ppl do stuff to you, dont you be the one doing stuff to them". heee... it's a mad world out there... life is full of decision-making ;)
anyways, gtg hit the wards ... u take care girl! :)
yea, i do feel and think the same way too where the relationship between male and female is a commitment. and thse shows that you have a so called "matlamat" in your relationship. bukan saja2 nak seronok. if you saja2 nak berseronok then inshaAllah you'll end up with DIVORCE. that's happened to my mum and my first dad. my mum get married in the age of 17 and i was born when my mum was 18. and when she was 24 (i was in the kindergarden and my little brother baru je 2 tahun!) they divorced and kesian dengan anak2. rugikan? bukan i yang cakap ni. mak i sendiri yang mengaku. heeee... btw, she met my 2nd father after 1 year. and they still together until today and forever,inshaAllah. and although i tak suka sangat dengan my 2nd father since i nie jenis yang prejudice sekettt), but he's a good man compare to my own father. my first father tu takde matlamat and tak bertanggungjawab. but still, he's my real father, no matter what. but i do learnt a lesson from this la. i want a guy yang boleh jadi leader yang baik la. tak nak yang maen2... yang maen2 tu baik maen guli jerrr.. heeee...
another thing, to me, if you have decided to be with your love one, do relly accept him/her. baik buruk die kite mesti terime. and it is good if you and die opposite but let all the opposite tu meengkapi one another.jangan bulak baling periuk with one another...!!! haha..
lastly, i believe in honesty. it plays an important role in relationship. i'm a kind of person who thinks once a cheater, forever a cheater. i wont give a face to a cheater. tak sukeeeeee... if you nak bohong jugak, bohong bende2 yang tak berkaitan dengan hati and perasaan and of coz MONEY! haha... tu boleh dimaafkan lagi... *kot...*
yo ashiebee, interesting question!
tak tau la, dulu i'd rasa benda ni mmg absolutely takleh terima but slowly i perasan it's soo possible
even orang kahwin pun boleh cerai kan, apa lagi couple
if u bagi situation 'confess bila tgh in a rship with org lain' of course la salah. feelings tu kena mutual la kan
if kita sorang terhegeh2 pergi confess dkt lagi sorang tu sedangkan the other party takde kasi sign lansung, itu syok sendiri/perasan namanya
and even if it's mutual, tengok orangla jugak. dunia ni kan ada seribu jenis orang so u can't tell if feelings tu based on apa. so i rasa tak salah if walaupun tgh in a rship but u suddenly terjumpa orang lain, but, it's how u handle the situation. and i rasa orang yang betul2 hebat je la know how to do it.
yang penting, both parties pandai2la keep an open mind and belajar2 move on. what doesn't kill u only makes u tougher :)
::.:: shak ::.:: i kinda like the "let ppl do stuff to you, dont you be the one doing stuff to them" thingy! eventho some might think u ni...weak, coward and dont go for what you want.... but yeah, it makes life alot easier kan!karma..lets not start there shall we! it's tooo long!!!! hehehe :P u too takecare girl! enjoy ur clinical life hehehheeh ;)
::.::nono::.::i think what we think about marriage before we actually get married is different from the real marriage world!i rase ramai je yg kawin suke2 (ok tkla suke2...but tak semua yang kawin yg betul2 dah ready to commit themselves, to accept all the responsibilities). Thats when the problem arise...and when masing2 dh tanak work together to solve it, cerai happens! i guess lah! i pun tk tau....hahaha, sbb belum kawin lagi :P
::.::dirakora::.:: hi diraaaaaa!!!i dh lama tk jumpe u!!!! rmh u pun i tk sampai lagi!!!*hahaha tkde kaitan ok!:P * hehehe terhegeh2 pg confess, i loike that one! so do you reckon we should just let the "third party" confess first...then br the "pemangsa" confess...then leave the "mangsa"? *rumit2* urmm i guess diff relationships that face this problem has diff solution kot! i mean, like wut you've said, it's how you handle the situation arrr supaya tkde perang saudara meletus! susahnyeeerrrr :S coz normally obviously satu pihak will get hurt and angry ler with the decision made by another party! but thats the price to pay for your happiness with the new person, no?
an opinion from me-
well normally cheater is related to the term "playgirl/playboy". coz manede player cr new partner b4 die dump the current partner kan! tu tak cukup player laaa -lol- but to quote a player's statement long time ago, "if you tak try, how will u ever know which one suits you most? sometimes it's not that i dont want to settle down..but i kept on meeting the wrong person! But i guess you've got the meet the wrong one first before you eventually meet the right one." nk buat camane if u terjumpe the one after you are already in a relationship. it's how u handle the situation (like dira said!)...i guess to reduce the damage that has been done!
yo ashhhh haha betul, betul. dah term3 dah ni. u tak sampai2 lagi. but then again, i yg pergi london ni pun tak jumpa2 u
nwho, takdela kena tunggu 3rd party confess dulu but unless if u ni mmg kaki perasan, u can tell la if love is in d air kan
kesimpulannya, tak bolehla nak generalizekan situation ni. kena tgk orang. if nak discuss i rasa u boleh bukak satu forum out of this topic alone :D yg playboy/girl tu, mmg gatal namanya. jangan layan. diorg bukan *ter*jumpa 'right' person but sdiri cari and mmg tak bersyukur with current rship or try to make the best out of it
cuma i rasa jarang2la org yg in a rship, pastu betul2 jumpa org lain yg mmg ada *true* connection with. ppl make mistakes all d time
and yang senang mmglah, utk berdoa u takkan terlibat dlm situasi seumpamanya
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