The weekend started with the Chinese New Year dinner organised by Floyerians :) Great food!!! Ade big steam fish, grilled chicken, sweet and sour fish, california rolls, dumplings, lai chee kang, japanese curry, prawn curry, tiramisu and brownies&ice cream. Thanks korang!!!
Rushed to Victoria Coach Station coz im leaving to Southampton!!! Yippee :D It's the shortest trip i've ever had. We stayed in soton for less than 24 hours. It was 20 hours to be exact! hee hee hee! Well it was a birthday suprise for my budak kecik; ZAZA!!! Last year I promised her that we'll celebrate her birthday together this year. And eventhough im a week late, atleast I managed to keep my promises :) Baked her birthday cake and sang the birthday song for her!!!! Thanks ibu and marriam for the warm, first-class hospitality. Thanks my canteks for accompanying me to soton!
Slept over at Taj's place on sat nite. Chill out depan tv, makan spaghetti and chit chat with Nadia, Emma and Emy (or isit Amy?hmm....) bout cheaters!Oh boy, we sure came out with loads of theories and thinking!!! hehehe..... probably i'll share it with you guys at the end of this entry :)
Ended my "hectic 48 hours" with a lunch-date with Ratey; my matrix friend! Belanja-ed her at Khans coz she always belanja me Baskin Robbins during our catch-up sessions back in Malaysia. hee hee hee! Tey, do keep in touch ok?!!! :)
Ok, back to the "CHEATERS" topic. While having our dinner, there was this reality-tv show called cheaters. It exposes extramarital affairs, marriage problems, cheating husbands, cheating spouses...you get what i mean, dont you?
I was left with 1001 questions after i watched the show.
First, why do people cheat? Is it because they are bored with their current partner? Or do they want to "test power" and check whether diorang still laku dlm pasaran ke tak after marriage? If they are bored and no longer have any interest with the current partner, just let them go lah! Dont you feel guilty coming home to your spouse after u "bercanda-ria" with your younger, sexier, hotter date? And btw, is physical thingy the only thing that matters to you? Don't you realise that people get older day by day? In fact, you yourself dah ade tanda2 penuaan!!! Tengoklah cermin tu sikit pakcik oooiii!!!
Second, what is the limit of putting you trust on the partner? How far should we trust them? Of course bukan 100% lah kannn...Most of the excuses used by the cheaters in that show was "Honey, im still working now." Yurp, working in somebody's bed!!! So beware, if your partner start ade symptom "Im very busy now" then you might want to ask somebody to investigate on him... hee hee hee :P
Third, would you date somebody's husband or wife? Do you want to be label as "marriage wrecker"? Ye ye, cinta itu BUTA, PEKAK dan BISU!!!! Tak mengenal usia, tk mengenal status. But how to bina masjid atas air mata orang lain???? And havent you heard of "karma"? What goes around comes around, what goes up must come down! Ok, you may defend yourself by saying, "But i didnt know that he is married! He said he has no other family!" Ok now you know. So STOP seeing him!!! And btw, sape la yang bongok sgt nk date somebody that you dont have a clue bout him. You dont know his background, people around you dont know his background... why orang tak tahu? coz he doesnt talk about it! Why doesnt he talk about it? *snap* coz he has something to hide!!!! Logik? And one more thing to think about....do u sanggup hancurkan kebahagiaan perempuan lain just for the reason "lelaki zaman skrg dah kurang!"???
Fourth, should we ever forgive a cheater? Sincerely, I dont think so! Havent you read the sign "Once broken considered sold" in one of those shops that sell barang2 kaca? The heart is just like the glass. When you lie, it breaks the heart into pieces. Berkecai just like the glass. You can collect it back and tampal with superglue, but the kesan is still there! The parut is still in your heart! Forgive but dont forget. WHY? So you'll be aware of it and hopefully pisang takkan berbuah dua kali!
Fifth, who should we blame when a person cheats? The cheater; for not being loyal? The spouse; for not being able to gives what the cheater wants? Or the third person; for kacau-ing hidup orang lain?
Haiiiihhhhhhhh...........
What i can conclude is, ANYBODY has the possibility to be a cheater! It can be a boy, it can also be a girl *eventhough most cases lelaki lahh kan! :P * Probably you partner skrg nampak sooo baik and mcm impossible that he/she will cheats on you.... Trust me, it is just the matter of time that they will screw up! And always remember to respect others. Do as you would be done by! If you tanak orang rampas suami/isteri or bf/gf you, jgn lah rampas orang lain punye! anda faham???!!!!
6 comments:
COOL picture ashie!!!!!!!!!!!!! haha..
ok. talking 'bout point number 4 heh?
"Fourth, should we ever forgive a cheater?"
My answer is big NO NO.. i yakin sgt he'll cheats again.. hobby katakan.. haha. chill!
eh forgot.. it's me -nono-
hi nono :)
yeah, i guess you are right! skali buat, ade potensi buat lagi skalii!!! but then, ramai ppl do forgive their partner probably when they have more responsibilites i.e. anak together?
ntahla...sometimes it's easier said than being done! kalu dah sayang sgt, sure susah nak tinggalkann... kalu dah terlalu sayang, yg menipu pun dimaafkan!
takkeeee?????
u talk about cheaters because u fear of being cheated. lemme tell u one thing, shit happens. ppl DO get tired of each other once they get too close. u spend the most time with ur bf/spouse/partner, am i not right? not so long ago women stay at home and tend to the house while the men go out to work to support the family. women back then do not ask for more than they can get (money, attention, etc). they are contented with what they get even if they dont get much attention from their husbands (at least they bring back the food u see?). but women now are different. with all the insecurities, now, women demand for more attention. it is all these demands and obligations that drives the men away or makes them search for alternatives. there are more cheaters now than back then am i not right? give it some thought... times have changed... and PEOPLE have changed... cheaters are just like a natural phenomena. so b a smart girl and never depend too much on a guy! same goes for the men out there... women of this age are capable of doing so much more than what they could do back then. back then women are more 'repressed'... now they have the freedom to do everything. even cheat (like their other counterparts!).
hey anonymous...
nobody wants their partner to cheat, no? but if it happens, it is something that we have to cope with. I think before we start learning to love somebody, tell yourself that if you lose him/her, you will stil survive! you will still live!!!
then you are able love to the fullest :) why? lets just say you ikut cara butterfly lah; enjoy the moment coz someday this fairytale thingy will ends. but when it does, you will live with no regret. you treated him/her nicely, he/she yg rugi to let you go.
thats my personnal opinion larr... not to have any cheaters in the entire world is IMPOSSIBLE!!! and somehow, these cheaters make the world....more interesting? hee hee hee :P
ps- yeah shit happens! kiter merancang, tuhan menentukan! but sometimes i think org tak berusaha langsung to maintain the relationship and terus salahkan takdir. is that fair???!!!!
i like the way u think. 'enjoy the moment coz someday this fairytale thingy will end'. i can't tell u how right u r. life's full of surprises, after all kan? =)
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